Self Esteem

Self Esteem

Before starting this course, I always wondered if there was anything that is left for me to do in order to build my self-esteem or, when will I be in total acceptance of myself for whom I truly am. This is to say that I accepted myself with limits, not knowing that there was more to self-concept. It was through Ruble, Flett, Freud and the self-esteem teaching; I have come to a true sense of how important self-efficacy and self-esteem are.

Over the last six weeks, I've done some interesting topics on self; this puts me on the level that I'm currently on. It actually shed some lights on the importance of self-concept and how we operate as an individual. Self-esteem should be one of our main focus in our everyday life, especially from development stage as this is greatly significant to our growth, behaviour and how we see our self.

As a child, the emotional relationship between my parents and I was not there. As a result of this I had no positive thinking towards myself; I was a child with negative representation. I spent most of my younger years doubting myself rather than finding way to make me think more positive about myself.

Some persons go through their entire lives trying to find who they really are and can't stop searching for a sense of belonging. Some truly found what they were looking and will try to educate others who are still searching. I was one of those persons who was always searching myself and could barely accept myself for who I am. I had persons in my live who is said that were there to help but instead of teaching or show the meaning of self-esteem and self-concept, they are telling me exactly how to live my live and I believe that is dependent on the individual how he or she choose to live their life.

It is said by Abraham Christopherson 1984 that "children who are loved and wanted whose parents are warm, supportive, concerned, interested and active in their guidance, tends to develop positive self-esteem." My parents were concerned and interested in my basic needs, to elaborate on this, they only care about food, clothing and make sure that I was going to school; just the basic things that a child needs to survive. They neglected my emotions and never show how a low self-esteem can tremendously affects my life.

This had a negative impact on my life when I stated learning about self-esteem at about age 12. I had the basic understanding of self-esteem then, but didn't have the support to apply to my life. I was afraid to ask question about things that could make my self-esteem stand tall. Growing up, I was always been told that you should be seen and not be heard and this was a contributing factor to my low self-esteem as I would withhold important questions that I would love answers for and could not have said much to contribute to anything in my household hence, it became a part of me. I couldn't talk to my parents and was afraid to talk to friends as