Masking Poor Communication

Communication

Communication is a process where ideas or information are shared with other people. In this process you have to articulate a thought and have a coherent thought process. In order to be an effective communicator two additonal criteria are necessary, they are focus and attention.

The article

Poor communication is a lack of attention and focus. It may be that it is the number one reason that most marriages fail. Communication with each starts with a sender and receiver. The thought process is an understaning that each other knows exactly what the other person is thinking or saying. This is based on the assumptions of knowing the other person. The article stated "People commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends than with strangers. That closeness can lead people to overestimate how well they communicate. For example, I have been married for twenty years. In my daily interactions with my spouse, we communicate throughout the day via text messaging, phone or email, we will often ask each other questions without giving each other a context. We assume that the other knows exactly what the other is reffering to by our thought process. We also expect the other to answer from our point of reference only because of the closeness we share.

"Twentieth-century philosopher Alfred Korzybski (1958) suggested that you can become a better communicator if you become more aware of what you and others are doing when you communicate, Recognize that communication is a process in which you must constantly work to avoid misunderstandings, and Expect to be misunderstood and expect to misunderstand others. When

Mis-communication

I have on occasion had miscommunication with my son. One recent example example that comes to mind is when I asked him to go to the market and pick up some fish for dinner. I assumed that he understood what I wanted only because of our daily interactions. I failed to explain it to him in a manner that he would understand. On this occassin I sent him to the market to get enough fish for four people. I stated clearly what I wanted and what was needed. I assumed he underfstood this only because he has seen me fry fish for the family before. I gave him a list that included catfish, greeens and corn meal. When he returned from the market he had two small catfish for a family of four. I asked where was the fish and he stated that he only got two and that he wasn't going to eat any fish. I explained to him that it still wasn't enough fish cause there were still three people to eat two pieces of fish. In the future we will have a better understaing of what is need casue his attewntion will be on me as I explain to him what is needed step by step.

Communication with friends and reletives requires just as much effort as commuicationting