Masking Poor Communication

Masking Poor Communication

Miscommunication is a very common thing amongst couples, loved ones, friends and even strangers. Something people think is such a little thing can cause such big problems. Many circumstances have occurred when I have said one thing and it was taken as something complete different. Miscommunication has occurred between me and my children, fiancée, family, friends, and even co-workers, and my bosses. Making sure your words and feelings are very clear and understood is a very important attribute in life.

To be successful in anything even relationships you first must have good communication. In the beginning of my relationship with my fiancée we never had miscommunication, as a year went by and we got to know one another better we started having misunderstandings. We had to sit down and discuss the fact that we both needed to "seek to understand". That is a saying that we use often in our household. Before you react, misunderstand, or respond you must first "seek to understand". My fiancée holds an executive position in McDonald's and one of his biggest sayings to his employees and to our children is "you must be proactive not reactive" I believe this is something that can be applied to miscommunication. If you react to what someone says without seeking to understand you can end up with atrocious results.

If something is ever complete unclear to you be sure to ask questions or clarify the statement or directions. To be a leader or successful in anything in life you must first have a student's frame of mind and learn or seek the appropriate information required to be successful with the outcome. Every action has a reaction and every choice has a consequence, however, if you seek to understand everything in life you will have vast results. Someone's words is not something to take lightly because most of the time people speak from their heart or are expressing concerns with a certain situation. I truly believe my fiancée has been successful in his career and been able to advance to the position he holds, as well as his relationship with myself and our children because he believes strongly in seeking to understand everything.

If there ever comes a time that he does not understand or has any doubt in his mind that something said or done was for a different reason than he believes he takes it upon himself to first ask questions. I have learned from him that misunderstandings can be prevented. Communication holds a high importance in life, you have to understand before you can learn or be successful in anything. It is said in our reading "Our problem in communicating with friends and spouses is that we have an illusion of insight. Getting close to someone appears to create the illusion of understanding more than actual understanding." (2011, January)

Once you get close to someone we get the illusion of