Social Work Counselling

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In this paper, I am going to illustrate a story with this meaningful picture.

In this picture, there are three people holding hand to hand with each other. What attracts me is that there are three vocabularies emerging in my mind. And I would see it as a process according this picture. The first one is argument, the second is communication, and the last is harmony. This picture reminds me a current incidence

There was a pair of twins. When they grew up, they stayed in his father's shop to help, until his father passed away. They cooperated to take over the store. Life is smooth, until an incidence of losing 500 dollars into the cash register. One day, Alan went out to work, when he had returned to the store, he suddenly found the money inside the cash register disappeared! He asked his brother, "Have you seen the money in the cash register?" The younger brother replied, "I did not see it."
But the brother has been brooding over the matter with aggressive questioning behavior, and they do not want to give up the matter. And Alan said, "Money will not run away with long legs, and I think you must have seen the money." The vague tone of the questioning, the resentment arises, and the brotherhood soon develop into deterioration.
The two sides do not want to talk, and later decided not to live together, in the middle of the store built a brick wall, from separation.
Twenty years have passed, and hostility and suffering have grown, and the atmosphere has also affected both families and the community as a whole.
After the day, there was a man driving a car, parked at the door of his brother's shop. He went into the store and asked, "How long have you been working in the store?" Brother replied that he had been in the shop for the rest of his life.
The guest said: "I must tell you a past; twenty years ago I was a homeless tramp, one day wandering to your town, I had not been eaten for several days, and I secretly took away 500 dollar from the cash register, although it was a long time ago, but I cannot forget this. Although a small amount of money, but condemned by conscience, I must come back here Ask for your forgiveness. "
When finished, the visitor was surprised to find the owner has tears, with a choking voice tone asked him: "whether it can store the story to the next shop again?" When the strange man finished the story next door later, he was dismayed to see two looks like a middle-aged man, crying in front of the store door.

After learning in the lesson, I think the happen of argument is due to lack of communication. This pair of twins faced a problem they choose not to communicate constructively, but to use the aggressive questioning behavior to judge others. Their belief influence how they communicate with each other. It reminds me that in the counselling process, we should bear a nonjudgemental attitude towards our client. We should listen to others and to observe why the problem happens. If we are holding the bias and prejudice to others, we could not communicate with each other in constructive way. They may think that someone violated the expectation. And the verbal aggressiveness may lead to violence and attack the other’s self-concept. Therefore, it would be the conflict factor in our daily life.