Family-Violence in a Common Society

Family-Violence in a Common Society

Domestic violence has been an ongoing problem that the family faces. It has only been within the last decade or two; however, that much attention has been paid to it by sociologists and politicians. Few people deny the fact that something needs to be done to deal with violence in the family because it often leads to future problems for members of the family. It is important to study family violence in order to figure out what truly causes one to hurt a loved one. There are many different theories on what the root of family violence is and depending on which perspective is taken will determine what measures are needed to be done to solve the problem. Various social studies has publicly defined the issue:

“…Domestic violence and emotional abuse are behaviours used by one person in a relationship to control the other. Partners may be married or not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together, separated or dating”.^[1]

There are many kinds and terms of domestic violence. The most common type is allegedly physical violence, which orbits around slapping, hitting or even biting. Other commonly known and typically seen are emotional-, sexual-, psychological- and economic abuse. All of which are filtered under the subject violence. Emotional abuse is in common times not a monstrous issue for the victims. Many people believe that if their partner is not physically hurting them, they are not being abused. I beg to differ. Emotional abuse is anything that the abuser says or does to the victim that causes the survivor to be afraid, lowers the victim's self-esteem, or manipulates or controls the individual’s feelings or behaviour. Emotional abuse follows a pattern; I believe that emotional pain brings joy to the abuser, and will therefore happen repeatedly. The UK government also declared online-harassment or trolling a domestic violence issue.  

It is no lie that socioeconomics play a part in domestic violence. In most circumstances, family violence are triggered by an obese husband with both psychological and financial issues. Although it is not gender-specified, as to almost 30% of men in the United States has been victimized of abuse. The vast majority of abusers are men, but in other respects, they vary: abusers come from all walks of life, from any ethnic group, religion, class or neighborhood, and of any age.

Domestic violence is more than three times as likely to occur when couples are experiencing high levels of financial strain as when they are experiencing low levels of financial strain.^[2] Domestic violence does not only involve and effect the victim. Offspring born into a tense family with violence and lacking economy also seem to inherit their poor manners. If the wife is abused, and haves a child, there is a reasonable and believable chance of the child also being abused, changing its future and social inheriting. In addition to a tough and violent childhood, children who have been exposed to domestic violence often learn destructive lessons about the use of violence and power in relationships. Children may learn that it is acceptable to exert control or relieve stress by using violence, or that violence is in some way linked to expressions of intimacy and affection. These lessons can have a powerful negative effect on children in social situations and relationships throughout childhood and in later life. That is why many sociologist’s term domestic violence as a never-ending cycle. Usually when domestic violence is occurring, the victim parent will cling to their children. A natural common reaction in human beings. A child goes through a lot and has needs to talk. I feel as if there is not enough Domestic Violence hotlines that reach out to the children in their homes, and that domestic violence are looked down upon as shameful and private. There is no place the children can turn for help with their daily lives. With technology today, almost all children have phones or at least access to a phone. It is often hard for mothers that experience Domestic Violence to leave their abusers. Which leads to one of the only Domestic Violence hotlines that we have in Denmark, the LOKK’s national hotline for victimized women, children and homosexuals. The affected can call the hotline any time and any day, even if they just wish to talk and share. The association keeps victims anonymous for their own safeties.