Preserving Good Friends Requires Work

Preserving Good Friends Requires Work (Effort)

Through our journey of life we meet many acquaintances who may or may not become

our friends. The development and continuation of friendship is an ongoing task that we

Unconsciously perform each and every day. Friends are people we care about, people we

love and respect. We don't necessarily meet and develop a relationship with our enemies.

Enemies happen upon us. An enemy is someone you expect trouble from, expect to get hurt

by. That is why it is so easy to forgive their wrong doings. When a friend betrays or wrongs

you, life and your relationship with them becomes complicated. And it is not so easy to forgive.

We have many different friends in our life. They come in all shapes and sizes, all

personalities, all with their own persona. Somehow they fit into our puzzle. They become a

piece of our wellbeing. Friends are a support for us. When things are going well they cheer us

on, push us to achieve and work harder towards our goal and celebrate in our happiness,

success and accomplishments. Friends also grieve with us. They feel our pain when we are hurt

or betrayed. They suffer through our losses and heartaches. In other words they participate in

our mourning.

We encounter many different types of enemies during our life cycle. Enemies come in

different shapes but they all have one thing in common, they don't have our wellbeing or

success at heart. Enemies can be inherited! There are situations where families have been

feuding or have a distinct dislike for each other for generations passed. Therefore a fifth

generation teenager can have a disdain for another fifth generation just because of a name and

family connection. Enemies are made in the workplace as people strive for success. Enemies

want us to fail Goal focused, uncaring people can trample over and create enemies of people

they use and abuse to move forward in the corporation. Enemies do not share in our successes

or losses but rather create uncomfortable, antagonistic situations for us and thrive on seeing us

hurt