Marrying Late

Marrying Late

Who would want to be alone? Of course, if not all, most of us want to grow old with someone. But marrying someone is not that simple as it looks like. You have to consider every aspect. It's not just because your heart beats every time you see that person, that person is already the one you would want to spend the rest of your life with. Making a decision to marry does not come in just one click. You have to think of it over and over again, for being united with someone in a holy wedlock is lifetime.

"Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together." Marriage isn't about getting married today and be divorced the day after just because things go topsy-turvy. Unfortunately, divorced, especially in these times, is something normal anymore. And those weddings who don't last a lifetime, I say, not ideal.

But of course, finding Mr. or Miss Right, just like in making a decision to marry, is also not an easy thing to do. And once you think you have found the right person, you may have doubts. And having doubts about who you are marrying is not only normal, but also is healthy.

Although expecting a spouse to make you happy all the time is unreasonable. Just by being with the right person can bring you happiness and a sense of personal strength to your life. You will know you are marrying the right person when you feel support and encouragement about your own growth both emotionally and intellectually. The right person will want you to be emotionally healthy and able to stand on your own two feet. When you are with the right person you will feel good about yourself, safe, and fulfilled. The right person will not be negative, selfish, wishy-washy, silent, embarrassing, critical, or a slob. Why spend your life with a jerk?

The right person of course, won't force you to marry even when you're not ready yet. The right person doesn't only think about your 'today', but also your future, what would be like if the two of you are already married. Sad, but is the fact, that many youth today doesn't think about their future, most especially their children's future, and they marry too early. I don't know if they're just being blind, but we see how early marriages end. And still, their numbers are growing each year.

There are many disadvantages in marrying too early. Well, of course, if there aren't, then our parents would not want to waste their time and saliva reminding us to concentrate on our studies first and not to focus on that thing. I'm not saying that marrying late has no disadvantage, but what I'm trying to express is that marrying late, is for me, a more appropriate thing to do, most especially today, in this generation.

The alarm of excessively early wedding is being broadcasted daily in global communications network. Early