If Romeo and Juliet Had Lived

If Romeo and Juliet Had Lived

Preface

Have you recently become involved with someone? You have so much in common. This new person seems to understand you like no one else has. They release in you passion you have never experienced before. You want this to last. This person is someone you want to take home to meet your parents. Yes, you would like to hold on to this infatuation passion, but you know that it won't last. You are Romeo and Juliet now and you wonder what would have happened if Romeo and Juliet had lived.

Or you are past infatuation and you are beginning to see that you are a bit over your head. You were recently Romeo and Juliet and you wonder what happened and will you get it back. What's next and what do you do?

Or you seem to be fighting a lot. You are trying to make a place for yourself in this relationship and you don't know how or how to stop the fighting. And at what price will you have to pay to stop the fights and what will be your relationship's legacy once the fighting stops. Your Romeo and Juliet days seem at some distance now and you wonder if you can even stay friends.

Or the fighting has stopped. You see your mate clearly for who he/she really is. You know how to cooperate and make decisions with your mate. You have a role and you know how to play it, but you are not sure that this is what you want. You are sure that this is what you have. You know that you are not to be a forever Romeo and Juliet and you are not sure that's okay with you.

Or you have stopped expecting what you won't get and you are not sure that you can give to your relationship what it needs and deserves. You have given up blame as a tool in your marriage, but you don't know if you have anything to replace it. You can accept that your Romeo and Juliet days are over, and you don't know what to do to make your marriage better, but you do know it is up to you not someone else.

Or you have rediscovered each other. It feels like you are in a second honeymoon period after years of marriage. You know it can't last this way and you wonder what will happen next. Though you know the Romeo and Juliet days are in the past, you have just had a special moment. What does this mean?

Or you are both busy accomplishing goals that you share. There is little time for you or the relationship. There's the children, the job, the church, the little league team that you coach, the shower you are giving for a friend. What is happening to your mate and to your marriage during all this? It is even hard to remember that you were once Romeo and Juliet. There is just so much to do.

Or the children are raised; the dream house is finished; the career goals accomplished, the nest is empty, and you wonder what is the point of being married now? Is there any reason to try to find whatever spark you had when you were