Anger Management

Anger Management.

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Anger is an emotion that affects all human beings. It is normal and quite healthy when one gets angry due to one reason or the other. However, if the anger is not managed and put into proper control it can be disastrous. The effects of not being able to control and manage anger not only affect the individual, but all other people surrounding the individual. Therefore, it is important to manage anger in order to have healthy relationships and above all to have the much needed peace of mind (Gupta, 2008). This paper explains how anger can be managed by the various anger management tools in case it gets out of hand due to a number of internal or external factors affecting an individual.

It is important for an individual to understand what anger is before they try to manage it. Anger is an emotion or a feeling that settles in when an individual is hurt, disappointed or annoyed. Depending on how one responds to anger, it can either build or destroy them (Gentry, 2011). If an individual is able to control their anger without venting it on others it helps stabilize their emotions and state of mind. It is also important to note that if one holds on to their anger they may tend to have passive aggressive behaviour which might have a negative effect on how they react with other people around them (Tafrate and Kassinove, 2009). Knowledge on how to handle anger makes a person understand how to react in emergency situations without allowing their emotions to cloud their judgment. It also helps individuals to engage in meaningful relationships in the future (Gupta, 2008).

The main goal of anger management is to enable individuals to handle anger in a way that they don’t lose control of themselves and end up engaging in an activity that they might have to regret. It aims at suppressing the emotion of anger and ensuring that it is expressed in a healthy and constructive manner (Gupta, 2008). It will be a lie for one to state that the goal of anger management is to completely suppress anger. Anger is a healthy emotion, however, the manner in which it is channeled to other parties is what is of greater significance. At the end of the day the frustration behind the emotion should, however, be addressed to the intended audience in one way or the other. Anger management helps individuals to relate well with one another and provides ways of avoiding conflicts in future which might be as a result of anger (Gentry, 2011).

Anger management is not a one day event but rather it is indeed a process. It takes time and practice to perfect it. With proper practice and guidance one is able to manage and handle anger (Tafrate and Kassinove, 2009). Anger management being a process it requires an individual to understand what causes anger in the first place. Once the root cause of what makes one angry is established it becomes an easy thing to manage the anger (Gupta, 2008).

         How we react when we are angry is dependent on a number of factors. Some of the factors may be our experiences during childhood, teenage and even during adulthood. Our different experiences play a key role in determining how an individual reacts to anger. Everyone has a thing or two that triggers them to be angry. In order to effectively manage anger such key triggers should be identified and handled constructively (Tafrate and Kassinove, 2009).

Most of the time anger is attributed to a number of external or internal reactions. Internal causes of anger in most cases are attributed to unmet expectations. Unmet expectations often act as a trigger for anger in most people (Tafrate and Kassinove, 2009). Most of the times angry people have a sense of entitlement to certain ideas and way of thinking. Low frustration tolerance acts as trigger for people to get angry when their ideas are not implemented (Gentry, 2011).

A number of external factors also cause people to be angry. A perfect example of an external factor that causes people to be angry is when someone makes an attack against an angry individual. In most cases the angry individual vents their anger using abusive language (Gentry, 2011). When their ideas are attacked one is likely to become angry since they feel that they are belittled. Other external factors such as stress and anxiety, physical and emotional pain, drug abuse and recent irritations may make an individual to become angry and lose control of themselves (Gupta, 2008).

Once the sources of anger have been identified, it is important to identify the physiological signs of an angry person. This is a key aspect in anger management since it helps to identify when a person is angry and how to calm them down before they react recklessly. Some of the physiological signs of an angry person include: Tensing of muscles, breathing uncontrollably, sweating profusely, gnashing of teeth, appearance of goosebumps and increased heartbeat (Tafrate and Kassinove, 2009). Other signs that can depict that one becomes angry so fast include: If they have outburst and break up things when angry. If an individual easily engages other people in fights unnecessarily. If one loses their temper easily this a sign that they are angry and they need to control their emotion. (Gentry, 2011).

There are a number of negative consequences that can affect an individual who is constantly angry. Unmanaged anger can make an individual sick. Such individuals may even end up being incapacitated and not being able to carry out their daily chores. A number of medical problems may accrue to individuals who do not control their anger (Gentry, 2011). Some of the medical problems include; constant headaches, insomnia, increased blood pressure, stroke, cardiac arrest and lastly skin diseases such eczema (Gupta, 2008). It is evident that anger issues may make an individual sick and even lead to death if not managed. Thus it is important to manage anger before it goes out of hand (Tafrate and Kassinove, 2009).